I am not one to sit down and write out New Years resolutions. I’ve never really seen the point of it because it effectively sets you up for failure. The sentiment is really nice, but for me it’s just not realistic.
I do think it is extremely important to take some time and reflect on the past year. Taking a quick look in the mirror and asking yourself if you were the best version of you this past year is a stepping stone to personal growth.
I am embarrassed to admit that I wasn’t happy with what I saw for 2018. I could have been a better wife, family member, friend, employee and overall person. In thinking of how best to improve I came of with four intentions that I will work to realize in 2019. The hope being that by working toward and, ultimately, living these intentions I will be able to look back at the end of this year and be proud of the person I see in the mirror.
2018 I was a total flake. Not only was I flakey when it comes to social engagements, but also regarding promises and goals I set for myself. I attribute some of this to starting a new job, but honestly it wasn’t just that. I like being a YES person and tend to completely overcommit myself.
Rachel Hollis sums it up perfectly, “Be careful with your commitments – slow down your yes and only commitment to things you know you can accomplish because they are important to you, otherwise you set yourself up for continuous failure.”
In 2019 I am going to be more selective in what I commit to and am also going to hold myself accountable for keeping my commitments. If I say I am going to meet girlfriends for drinks, it’s going to happen no matter how tired I am. If I tell myself I am going to wake up at 5:30 to write a blog post before I start my work day, the snooze button isn’t an option. Commit to working out three times a week? Nothing is going to stop me.
I am naturally a very outgoing and confident person, but not when it comes to my digital presence. Putting yourself out there on the internet is scary because it just lives there for anyone and everyone to see. It’s so easy to second guess every recipe, photograph, caption, comment and social media is its own beast. I genuinely LOVE recipe development and photography, and I LOVE sharing it with you. There’s nothing that makes me light like seeing you make one of my recipes. Unfortunately we live in an extremely judgmental society and my natural instinct is just to want to remove myself for that type of atmosphere.
With that being said my girlfriend Hillary posted something recently on Instagram relating to this that hit me hard. She said something along the lines of stop worrying about what other people think, just create art that makes you happy and the right people will be drawn to it and think its just as beautiful.
In 2019 I am challenging myself to be ultra confident when it comes to blogging. Stop overanalyzing every recipe, photograph and post because when that happens I end up posting nothing and feel even more anxious.
Who has ever completely blown an afternoon, hell even an entire day, just sitting on the couch and binge watching Netflix?? I know I definitely have more than I’d like to admit. Doing nothing feels freaking amazing when you’re doing it, but looking back I always hate myself for wasting so much time that I could have been doing way more productive activities.
Don’t get me wrong, watching Netflix for a couple of hours to decompress is productive in its own way. But a whole day? Questionable.
This year I plan on using my time more wisely. I am definitely comfortable being lazy at times, and I think that has been a big inhibitor of reaching my goals. I also think the more productive you are the happier you are because you feel more accomplished. I think if I make a conscious effort to be more productive then I will be able to accomplish goals beyond my imagining.
Let me just start by saying that 2018 was a HARD year, personally and professionally. There was a lot of change, and some personal struggles. Looking back I see that, unfortunately, I constantly took a negative approach to things instead of looking on the bright side. I trained myself to automatically imagine the worst, and by doing that I began to fear the future. Not a good mindset at all.
Starting today I am committed to consciously training myself to have a more positive outlook when confronted with difficult situations. Over the holidays I had an a-ha moment that it takes WAY more energy to be negative versus knowingly thinking good thoughts. So negativity, bu-bye, you’ve outstayed your welcome.
I challenge you to come up with your own intentions for 2019. It was a great exercise for me, and I know it will be just as beneficial for you! Looking forward to a great 2019!!